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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Natural High! Why that high five feels so good.

A high five hands on yours, a hug from a family member…we have recognized the therapeutic healing power associated with feel and touch for a long time now. Yet research has shown that even small expressions, little touches, as well as physical contact between individuals, leads to surprisingly good behavioral adjustments.

In one study conducted with Brigham Young University, research workers trained partners to keep them self updated on one another’s feeling by means of nonsexual touch of the neck, shoulders as well as hands. They discovered that couples which practiced this kind of contact acquired higher levels of oxytocin, the hormone which boosts the sensation regarding binding as well as wellbeing, and resulting in a lowered level of apha ayylase, a tension signal stress indicator, than partners who had not receive the instructive training.

This past year the New York Times reported that students who obtained any supportive touch such as a mild pat on the shoulder from a teacher have been about twice as prone to volunteer in class as those who did not…and that the same type touch from a physician made patients think that their physician's check-up had lasted twice as long as those that had not received the physical contact.

And also consider the high five or closed fists bumps? In a study from University of California-Berkley scientists discovered that National Basketball Association teams whose players had good positive tactile contact performed far greater than teams that did not.
These studies concluded that physical contact appeared to encourage cooperation…ease stress…and create a cozy as well as trusting environment.

So please, be sure to…hug your family members often…give your young ones all the affectionate physical contact you can…and don’t hesitate to interact with nonfamily members by simply placing your hand on their’s. That's effective medication.

Living the Therapeutic Touch: Healing as a Lifestyle  instructional


Tuesday, December 20, 2011

How to Be a Better Kisser

Cherie Byrd

Kissing is more than a prelude to intimacy -- it is a healing act. A
soulful kiss triggers endorphins and melts away tension... brings us back into the moment... restores energy... cultivates profound closeness... and contributes to a fulfilling, loving relationship.

Most people kiss with only a fraction of their awareness. They deliver quick, routine pecks that send the message This is all the time I have for you right now, or engage in longer kisses while their minds are elsewhere, such as wondering whether the kiss will lead to lovemaking.

Unfortunately, we lack good role models for kissing. On TV and in the movies, kissing usually is depicted as mashing lips together roughly. Mashing, puckering up and the quick smooch all suggest that a person has predetermined how the kiss is going to be, rather than letting the kiss evolve through the back-and-forth interplay between partners.

The following exercises can help anyone become a better kisser -- and are fun to do...


Surprise your partner with a slow, luxuriant kiss. Place your hands on his/her face, and gently turn it toward you. Look into his eyes and take two deep breaths -- as though you are drinking in the essence of your partner. Continue to look into each other’s eyes as you draw his face closer. Feel your connection to each other throughout your whole body. Don’t kiss yet -- instead, revel in your partner’s nearness and enjoy the tease and the hunger that precede the actual kiss. Finally, gently embrace your partner’s lips by wrapping both your lips around one of his. Keep breathing as you let your whole body sense the tenderness between you.


We spend a great deal of time thinking and planning and not enough time sensing and experiencing. To be better kissers and truly enjoy kissing, we need to reconnect with our bodies.

Practice becoming aware of physical sensations during everyday actions. When you walk, feel the sensation of your foot striking and coming off the pavement and the temperature of the air on your face. When cooking, let yourself fully appreciate the aroma and visual splendor of the food you are preparing. In the shower, feel the pulse and heat of the water on your skin.

Choose a favorite variety of chocolate, and eat it as slowly as possible. First, gaze at it, appreciating its shape and color. Place it in your mouth. Before biting down, notice how it feels against your tongue. As you slowly consume it, savor the changes in texture and flavor.

Exchange foot massages with your partner, taking time to enjoy the relaxation and stimulation that arise from the sensitive nerve endings in the feet.

When you kiss, extend your sensual awareness to your partner as you delight in stroking his face and hair and inhaling his scent.


Indulge in pillow talk. Before or after making love, or any time you are cuddling, share with your partner something he/she did that made you feel good. Example: "When you touched me this morning, I felt alive, and I kept feeling your touch all day long."

Make noise. When you are kissing, notice any urge to sigh, murmur or even moan. Give in to the urge to express your feelings in sound.


Match your partner’s breathing. You can do this without telling the other person -- just pay attention to the pace of your partner’s breath, and breathe in time with it. This creates a deep sense of connection. The two of you also can do this together, consciously, deciding who will match whom. For most couples, it is a good idea for the man to match the woman’s breathing first. Many women are used to attuning themselves to others, and they feel deeply appreciated when a partner attunes to them.

Don’t feel that you have to be serious doing this exercise. If you find yourselves giggling, that’s even better. Laughter is a powerful connecting force.

Put on some tango or other Latin music, embrace each other and dance around the room as you kiss. Feel the rhythm of the music throughout your body. Improvise with your lips as you let the music inspire you.

Take turns offering and receiving. Have one partner be the "lead kisser" for five minutes, then reverse roles for five minutes. After that, let spontaneity take over as each of you leads and responds.


It’s never too early or too late to begin a conversation about what you prefer in a kiss. Do you like moisture? How much? Yes, a little, not so I have to wipe off my face, and never in my ear. Oh, and no loud smacking kisses anywhere near my ears, please. Share feedback about what you and your partner most enjoy. Build on this, and keep adding to your repertoire for as long as you two shall kiss.

A word about tongues: As kissing continues, use your lips and tongue to invite your beloved’s tongue to come and play. Tongues become something of a third lip, adding dimension and complexity to the kiss. Kisses, like your breath, your touch and your connection, become more fully and deeply engaged as you share your energy back and forth. The conversation of tongues becomes more expressive -- teeth begin to nibble and grab, sucking of lip or tongue may ensue and a pause of lip-locked stillness can open the moment into a rush of pure connection, engendering passion and floods of hormones.

For a professional advice on how to be the best kisser in town…
Seal It with a Kiss: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Delivering the Knockout Kiss 

Cherie Byrd, MA, is a holistic psychotherapist based in Seattle, who has been practicing and teaching the art and energy of intimacy for more than 35 years. She opened the Kissing School in Seattle in 1998.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Poison in you food & drink.

The soft drink industry wears many hats. On one occasion it resembles such offenders as Big Tobacco by its funding of so called independent research groups dedicated to twisting the truth. All this to discredit clinical authoritative findings that links their sugary, and junk food products to serious health risks.

Their phony front-groups disguised as authority, disingenuously support legitimate health groups and organizations while pretending to be concerned and involved in safe food and drink products. In reality, they’re products are promoting serious health risks associated with premature degenerative diseases, and death.

Soda, a widely consumed beverage of America’s children, is linked to aggressive, violent, abnormal behavior, and including mood swings. Adults are also exposed to serious health risks including diabetes, cancer, obesity, etc. Sugar is guilty of promoting an acidic-body-chemistry that increasingly encourages pathogenic aggression. Cancer and other diseases thrive in an acidic, sugary body-chemistry-environment.

Our nations schools have been rewarded by manufacturers of processed and junk-food products, along with their sugary counterparts with kick-backs and other perks to school districts that promote these poison-food and drink products to our naive and unsuspecting children. 

Parents are encouraged to educate their children on the dangers of poor food choices, and to teach by example by introducing your children, and yourselves to better and healthy choices such as organic, and or locally grown foods from trusted farms in your area. You can encourage life-long consciousness of good food and eating habits in those you love, and greatly increase their chances for a long and disease free life.

Almost 1 billion pounds of pesticides are used just on fields and orchards in the United States — each year. These chemicals not only coat edible products, but also drift into nearby communities. Remember to soak, then thoroughly rinse your non-organic produce before serving. A effective non-toxic wash solution is available at  and,

A home made wash-solution… Use a Hydrogen peroxide solution to clean non-organic vegetables. Add 2 teaspoons to 1 gallon of water. Soak leafy vegetables for 5-10 minutes, fruits and heavier veggies for 10 -15  minutes before using or storing. Peel non-organic fruits and vegetables, such as apples and cucumbers and discard the peel.
Peel and discard outer layers of non-organic leafy vegetables, such as lettuce and cabbage. 

Editor’s note: While pesticide free food is an obvious win-win path to better health, clean and pure water (chlorine and fluoride free) is just as important since up to 60% of the human body is water, the brain is composed of 70% water. Your health and longevity is within your choices.


Friday, November 11, 2011

Cloth Grocery Bags can quickly become a dangerous Biohazard to your family.

Be Cautious of the Hidden Dangers of “Eco-Friendly” fabric Grocery Bags.

The alternative to plastic has become reusable cloth/fabric grocery bags. However, they are prone to harbor breeding grounds for infectious food-borne bacteria and therefore pose a serious public health risk at best.
The report, developed in a joint study conducted between researchers at
the University of Arizona and Loma Linda University detected harmful coliform bacteria, and E. coli, in half of food shoppers’ bags in a random test.

Obvious reasoning suggests that you never put raw meat and produce in fabric shopping bags. Also, moisture from frozen food items produces condensation that encourages the growth and transfer of mold and other microbial organisms. If you’re using fabric bags, it’s strongly advised that you wash them periodically in hot water with bleach to eliminate hazardous bio-growth.

Several west coast cities have now banned the use of these sanitary plastic grocery bags, claiming that they are not eco-friendly to the environment, and may no longer be a option to grocery shoppers in these areas.  Cities already 
enforcing the ban  include, Seattle, San Francisco, and Portland. Also, this trend may soon become a statewide ban of plastic shopping bags in the great state of California. We seem to eliminate one unhealthy habit only to embrace another with possible more serious consequences.

All this in the name of a healthier environment. Isn’t it comforting to know that our law-makers are well educated on this subject, and well ahead of the curve. Maybe forced inoculations are next on their environmental do-good agenda? 

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Power foods that may help keep you energized and focused.

CBS News) 
On "The Early Show on Saturday," Frances Largeman-Roth, senior food and nutrition editor for Health magazine, shared the power foods below that may help keep you energized and focused.

To Boost Energy:
If you feel tired and groggy throughout the day, you may not be getting enough iron. And because women lose the mineral when we menstruate, you could feel this effect even if you don't have a full-blown deficiency.

Eat: Red meats, poultry, fortified cereals

To Feel Calm:
We know caffeine can put us on edge. But another surprising source of jitters is too many refined carbs - foods high in white flour (cookies, white bread) and stripped of nutrients and fiber that normally keep your blood sugar stable. A big dose of these foods could cause your blood sugar to soar, and you may be antsy as a result. Then, the extra insulin will make your blood sugar plummet, leaving you feeling sluggish. To prevent those drastic spikes, stick with unrefined carbohydrates.

Eat: Brown rice, whole-grain bread, whole-grain pasta

To Get Sharp:
Are you constantly misplacing your car keys? You might not be getting enough brain-boosting nutrients like omega-3 fatty acids and vitamin B-12. Omega-3s are loaded with DHA, a type of fatty acid that makes neurons in your brain fire more effectively. And a lack of B-12 has been linked with confusion, numbness, and fatigue. If you up your intake of these suggested foods and still feel disoriented, ask your doctor if you should consider having your B-12 level tested.

Eat: Salmon (omega-3), eggs (B-12)

To Beat Bloating:
Even though veggies and legumes are good for you, certain ones - like beans, broccoli, cabbage, and cauliflower - can produce lots of gas, leaving you with major bloating. It might have something to do with their complex sugars being hard to digest. Carbonated drinks can also increase bloating, both because they're bubbly and because their artificial sweeteners can be hard for your body to break down. If your belly is feeling swollen, try halving the amount of bloat-boosting veggies you normally eat for a week to see if that helps. Don't cut them out completely, because they still provide crucial nutrients. Ditch soda and seltzer, but keep drinking flat water, which helps relieve constipation - another cause of bloating. Taking probiotic supplements can also help. Talk to your doctor about which one might be right for you.

Eat: Probiotics, plain water

Is our meat supply being compromised by GMO tampering? You decide.

Despite emphatic warnings by well credentialed experts, and overwhelmingly vehement opposition by the majority of the farming community the USDA and Secretary of Agriculture Tom Vilsack and therefore President Obama’s administration have “fully deregulated genetically engineered alfalfa ” which is our predominant feed crop for livestock. The implications of this decision are huge. It is predicted by Dr. Huber in the above video that within only five years there will no longer exist any alfalfa that is not genetically engineered. This is a decision from which there may be no way to turn back, irreversible.
As described by Dr. Huber in the video, in the livestock herds studied to date, infertility rates of 15% have been observed and combined spontaneous abortion+still birth rates as high as 35% are evident in livestock exposed to and infected by this new virus/fungus by Monsanto’s roundup ready corn and soy crops. If you are a farmer or rancher, and 50% of your herd is unable to reproduce, very shortly you will no longer have a herd.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Study reveals: Eat Broccoli, Live Longer.

Friday, June 10, 2011 8:25 AM
To the likely delight of nagging parents, a new study shows that people who eat more fruit and veggies tend to live longer.

Plants from the mustard family including broccoli, cabbage, and cauliflower seem particularly beneficial, although the study can't prove that eating more vegetables automatically increases longevity.

It's possible, for instance, that those who consume lots of produce also have a healthier lifestyle in general.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

You May Want to Consider These Wholesome Hangover Helpers.

Summer cocktails are divine. Summer hangovers…not so much. Take a pass on hair-of-the-dog and ease the pain with these healthy cures. By Reader's Digest Editors.

Make an antioxidant smoothie...

Do as the Japanese do…

Sip some kombucha tea…

Read the whole cure story--

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Massachusetts Authorities Aim to Ban Lazy Cakes.

The phenomenon is spreading. Everyone seems to be searching for the ultimate legal high. Here's the story of one entrepreneur who wants to make dreams come true. - Authorities in the Massachusetts communities of Fall River and New Bedford want to ban Lazy Cakes from stores because they believe the treats may be harmful to children, CBS Boston reported. Lazy Cakes are “tasty chocolate treats that bring on the ultimate state of relaxation,” according to the company’s Facebook page. The brownie is flavored with herbal relaxation blends such as melatonin, valerian root extract, rose hips extracts and passion flower.
Fall River Mayor William Flanagan said brownies should not be laced with melatonin, a sleep aid, and he has asked the city council to pass an ordinance that would keep the brownies off of store shelves. “If someone wants to buy melatonin, that’s fine, but it shouldn’t be in a brownie that’s packaged to attract kids,” he said.
There’s approximately eight milligrams of melatonin in each of the ‘cakes.’ One serving, or half a brownie, is more than the recommended dose.“ In Europe, the common prescription as a sleep aid for adults is .03 milligrams,” Dr. John Benanti, the head of Emergency Services at South Shore Hospital, told CBS Boston. “So this would be a lot, even for adults.”
Terry Harris, the CEO of HBB, LLC, the makers of Lazy Cakes issued this statement: “We have not been contacted by the Mayor’s office in regard to their specific questions about our product, but we welcome a conversation with Mr. Flanagan. We created Lazy Cakes to provide adults with a great-tasting way to combat the stress associated with our fast-paced lives. Ingredients include items that anyone can purchase at any health food or vitamin store, such as melatonin, Valerian Root Extract, Rose Hips Extract, and Passion Flower. Each Brownie is clearly labeled to indicate that we recommend that Lazy Cakes be enjoyed by adults only. We encourage parents to check the label before providing this or any product to their children.”

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Spring allergies: Seven natural remedies…...

M.D. spotlights alternative treatments for itchy eyes, clogged noses, sneezing and other symptoms sufferers experience

(CBS News)  This is turning out to be one of the worst springs ever for Americans who suffer from allergies.

But for those who'd prefer to avoid drugs in seeking relief from their sniffles, itchy eyes and other symptoms, Dr. Vincent Pedre had some suggestions on "The Early Show" Friday.

Pedre, founder of Pedre Integrative Health, pointed to seven drug-free alternative treatments:

The theory behind honey is that if you eat local honey from bees that live in your area, the nectar created by the flowers that they draw from has pollen grains in it that are local to your area. Taking a spoonful of this about one month before spring starts is almost like a natural form of homeopathy, in which you're being exposed to tiny amounts of the allergen, which helps you become resistant to it. New York City recently approved beekeeping, and one brand, called Hi-Rise Hive, is sold at local health food stores. The theory hasn't been proven by a double blind study yet, but as long as you don't give honey to a child under a year old, it's a safe remedy and it won't do any harm to try it.
Vitamin C taken with Quercetin works in unison to stabilize mast cells. Mast cells are tiny cells that line your nasal passages and go down into your lungs. Basically, when a mast cell is exposed to a pollen grain that you're sensitive to, it releases histamine and causes the symptoms typical to allergies. By stabilizing the mast cell, you reduce its activity so it doesn't release histamine as easily as it would have. You can take Vitamin C and Quercetin several times a day when you find you're having symptoms, since you can't overdose on either, because they're water soluble, and any amount that you don't digest will be released in your urine. Vitamin C and Quercetin are sold as a combo at health food stores.
If you've ever come in contact with this perennial, you probably remember the sting. It has an acid at the edge of pointy leaves, and the acid stays on your skin. But, it's safe and healthy in drink form. Steep the tea for 10 to 15 minutes to obtain the full benefits of the medicinal oils. The oil from the leaves has an antihistamine effect and tends to dry up the mucous membranes.
If you inhale steam with certain essential oils, you can breathe easily -- quickly. Bring water to a boil in a saucepan, turn off the heat and add 4 drops of eucalyptus oil, 1 to 2 drops of tea tree oil and three drops of rosemary essential oil. The eucalyptus oil opens up your airway. The tee tree oil has antimicrobial properties that align with the rosemary. The effect won't last for several hours, but it can provide immediate relief.
It can be effective for this purpose. Acupuncture works by putting a needle into what is called an acupuncture point, a pressure point. By pointing the needle there, it creates signaling to your nervous system to alter what's happening in your body at the moment. Endorphins are released, local anti-inflammatories are released, and it can reduce inflammation.
The type of medicine I practice realizes that, while your body reacts to external allergens, the underlying cause may be certain foods that can increase your level of reaction. So, my first piece of advice is to begin with a non-allergenic diet. For example, for a lot of people, dairy causes them to create more mucous. If you're having dairy on a regular basis, and it's spring and you're a person who's already sensitized to pollen, you're more likely to develop mucous buildup and congestion in your sinuses that can lead to a sinus infection. The same thing goes for sugar. It can increase mucous production and inhibits white cell activity. Wheat is another thing to which 10 percent of Americans are sensitive and don't even know it because it doesn't have a sudden onset. Rather, it's a gradual reaction. The only way to know if you're allergic is to take wheat out of your diet and see how you feel in two or three weeks. Some of my patients report a general sense of well-being and more energy. A lot of women report constipation goes away after they remove wheat from the diet. This treatment is the most powerful one on the list, because it's for treating the underlying cause of allergies. The remaining remedies are for treating symptoms. The thing to bear in mind is that there's no instant gratification with this, since it can take several weeks before you see results.
Neti pots have been used since ancient times in India to clear nasal passages. Using one, or a saline nasal rinse such as Sinucleanse, is a great way to help reduce allergy symptoms. You use a salt solution that, at room temperature, is bactiostatic (antibacterial). When you're leaning forward and putting the neti pot in one nostril and tipping over, it runs through your nasal passage and out the other nostril, washing out any pollen grains that are stuck to your mucous membranes. You're reducing your exposure and reducing the activity of your mast cells and your immune system. It also helps with congestion and with mucous buildup.

Saturday, May 7, 2011

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Wednesday, April 27, 2011

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Wednesday, April 13, 2011

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Sunday, April 3, 2011

Americans may be sleep-deprived, and now possibly sex deprived also.

(CBS News)  We've heard a lot recently about how Americans are sleep-deprived -- and now a survey of working parents finds they're sex-deprived, as well.
Seventy percent said they're too tired to get romantic after a tough day of work. Psychotherapist and relationship expert Heide Banks said on "The Early Show" Tuesday that "really is a staggering number. It's so understandable - the demands of parenting these days, helping with homework, car pooling, shopping. It's a wonder anybody is having sex."
How often are couples having sex?
"This is the scary thing," Banks remarked to co-anchor Chris Wragge. "Under 30, or in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, two-to-three times a week. Over 30, 59 times a year. So that's a little bit more than once a week. When you get to be about 60 or 70, once a month. So anywhere in there," Banks explains. "But you can't compare yourself. You can't get in to a numbers game. It's about connecting in a relationship. So if you're sitting home going, 'Oh, honey, it's only 54 times and it's already New Year's Eve,' no, you can't do that. You've got to really allow your relationship to be what it's supposed to be."
Wragge pointed out that lot of it is based on where the relationship stands.
"Exactly," Banks says. A common response Banks finds in her research is, "I'm just too tired for it right now."
According to Banks, research says there are three things that affect whether or not you're having sex. Health and hormones: Obviously, as you get older, your sex drive decreases with most people. How tired you are is number two out of that whole list. And even more important than that how happy the relationship is."
Are those the real major factors for married couples?
"Absolutely. If you're not happy or exhausted, you're not having a great sex life. If you're not healthy, you're not having a great sex life."
"Is it one of those things where if you really want to do it, you can find time?" Wragge asks.
"We all know that. It really does boil down to that. But you've got to make it a priority. Make connecting a priority and you've got to make the enjoyment of it a priority. So maybe skip the trip to the mall. A lot of us get distracted with the little things in our life."
Fatigue can really affect one's libido, as well.
"There is nothing that stresses you out more than not having enough sleep. If you don't have enough sleep, your libido is low. But on the other side of it is, if you push yourself to have sex, it does energize your libido. So it's one of those two sided coins," she adds.
Banks points out that you have to look beneath the "I'm too tired" phrase. "It's always the issue beneath it, like what's really going on here? Have you connected, have you taken the time as a couple? Are there other stresses coming in to the relationship? Because you just can't use that excuse," she says.
So what can married couples with children do who to spice up their sex lives?
Banks suggests getting up a half hour earlier before the kids wake up and break the pattern.
"We always think of sex in the evening and we're exhausted. Wake up a little early and start your day that way," she stresses. "Again, re-prioritize your relationship, make connecting a priority. And number three, the most important thing, make you a priority and get more sleep. We always make the kids the priority. A good marriage makes the couple the priority."
"I remember growing up my father used to say to my mother, 'hey, we're going to go away for a few hours' and he would turn to us kids and he'd say 'this is our time.' And we knew what that meant," Banks says.
"Go play. Don't come back," Wragge jokes.
"We knew it wasn't time to go buy school supplies, it was a time for them, let's put it that way," Banks says. "And again, exhaustion, get more sleep. Sleep is the most important thing we can do for our health and it affects every area of our life. So maybe instead of taking a vacation, take a little sleep vacation. Say I'm going to take the day off from work and I'm going to rest."
"A little rest can go a long way," Wragge adds.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

NewsPings: Study reveals, 97% of women have daily negative thoughts of their body!

NewsPings: Study reveals, 97% of women have daily negative thoughts of their body!

Can Diet Soda Raise Your Stroke Risk?

In this study, volunteers were followed for over 9 years. Appox. 900 of them reported not drinking any diet soda, while appox. 160 reported drinking one or more diet sodas a day.  At the end of the study, diet soda consumption, as well as salt intake, was linked to higher rates of strokes, heart attacks and other lethal vascular events.

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Sunday, March 27, 2011

Sex After Kids.

When was the last time you had sex? If you can’t remember, chances are you’re married with children. But does that mean you have to go without? Read on for ways to bring back the bedroom bliss…
If you make it past eleven months with no sex whatsoever, you can declare yourself a born-again virgin!”

While sleepless nights are the norm for many new parents, it’s not always exhaustion that’s to blame for post-child celibacy. Many women are self-conscious about their post-baby bodies.

Remember when you used to tear each other’s clothes off. But with pregnancy weight still hanging on, many women don’t feel very sexy or attractive. And your boobs are so huge and swollen, the last thing you want is for your husband to touch you!”

Sometimes, one partner harbors resentment toward the other and withholds sex as punishment.

One Chicago mom says she hated that her husband went to work every day and left her home to handle their newborn.

“Even when he was home, much of the responsibility fell on me. I was furious and jealous,” she says. So she used the “Honey, I have a headache” excuse more than a few times to “get even.” 

All this leads to the big question: Is anyone with kids getting any? 

About 15%-20% of all marriages are “sexless,” according to a recent Newsweek study, meaning the couples have sex no more than 10 times a year. You read that correctly – that’s less than once a month! And those statistics continue to climb. 

Mainly because most women are overworked, overcommitted and overextended financially. And stress is hardly an aphrodisiac.

So what can you do if you’ve lost the lust and want it back?

Make your marriage – and your sex life – a priority, not an afterthought, advises Rachel Blakeman, a Manhattan psychotherapist and managing editor of The Candidate, a psychoanalytical journal. 

“Both partners need to make a commitment to bring the passion back into the relationship,” Blakeman says. “Couples should begin by communicating their sexual needs and openly discussing how they can be fulfilled.”

Part of that discussion must include a sex plan for where, when and how often. Then stick to it – even if you’re tired, unenthused or covered in baby food. Remember the movie 9½ Weeks? A little applesauce behind the ears can be sexy… go with it!

“If we want it, we have to seize the moment,” says Christina H. of New York City. “The second our daughter goes down for a nap, we jump on each other – in the kitchen, the living room, whatever. It’s a challenge – but exciting too.”

It isn’t impossible to get your mojo back, Blakeman says – even if it seems like ages since you last made love.

“You and your husband were a team before baby came along. And you can reclaim that intimacy with a little effort.” 

Rev Up the Romance
Blakeman suggests taking these 7 simple steps to jump-start your sex life now.

1. Schedule “we” time. Get a Saturday-night sitter, and plan a regular date night. Or just watch a baseball game or movie at home together while drinking beer. It’s about quality – not quantity – and finding the time to be a couple without your little munchkins in the middle. 

2. Make the first move. If your spouse isn’t in the mood, take the initiative. Don’t take it personally if he doesn’t take the bait. Just like you, he may simply be too exhausted or stressed. As the saying goes, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again… tomorrow.

3. Dress the part. Sleeping in a ratty T-shirt might be comfortable, but it’s not going to make your hubby hot for you. Break out the lacy lingerie or even just a fitted tank top. Better yet, go to bed in the buff.

4. Set the stage. Light candles. Give each other massages. A little ambience goes a long way.

5. Reconnect. Make eye contact, talk to each other (don’t just text or email), hold hands, and really listen to what your spouse has to say. 

6. Relive the past. Go to your old haunts – the restaurant where you had your first date, the park bench where he popped the question. Flip through old photo albums from when you were first dating and reminisce about the romantic things you did together. It’s bound to stir up memories… and maybe something else too!

7. Get away, even for a day. Take a break from the everyday, even if it’s only for one or two nights. (Enlist family, friends or a sitter to watch the kids.) Alone time can do wonders for your relationship. 

Is Your Love Life in a Lull?
Write down your answers to each question, then check your results at the end of the article.

1. The last time you had sex was:
A) Last night… and the night before… and the night before that.

B) Our anniversary… last year.

C) When the Olsen twins were still in diapers.
2. Your idea of a romantic evening is:
A) A candlelit dinner at a fancy French restaurant.

B) Hamburgers and "Seinfeld" reruns.

C) Eight hours of uninterrupted sleep.

3. Your hubby says, “Let’s do it!” You reply:
A) “Last one naked wears the French maid outfit!”

B) “OK, but after I help the kids with their homework.”

C) “Do what?”

4. The song title that best describes your sex life is:
A) “Dirrty!”

B) “What Have You Done for Me Lately?”

C) “Hi-ho, Hi-ho, It’s Off to Work I Go!”

5. Which adjective would your spouse use to describe you in bed?
A) Adventurous

B) Indifferent

C) Comatose

If you answered 3 or more A’s: You have a hot and happening sex life!
You prove that even frazzled moms can be sizzling spouses. Go, girl – you're our hero!

If you answered 3 or more B’s: You’re slowly sinking into a sexless existence!

But you're too tired to realize it. All your chores and activities as a mom are taking their toll on your love life. May we suggest a double espresso... and a game of strip poker?

If you answered 3 or more C’s: It’s time to put away the chastity belt!
You might be feeling loveless these days, but it's not hopeless. You just need to make more time to be together as a couple – not a couple of parents.